What we did when our men used hookers
One used prostitutes on a business trip to Amsterdam; another whilst on a lads' night out. And they split up.
The third happened because "we had less sex because I was tired." And they worked out the problem and their relationship is stonger.
I wouldn't like to guess at how many men use prostitutes. I am aware of a fair few because all the time I have lived in London has been in a 'red light area'. (Streatham used to be the place, and about the time I moved up to Brixton Hill, the activities moved up, and changed their nature). I don't think the £10-a-time crack whores on the street are typical of the business, and I think most of the men of the men who go with them are dirty and ville, and a basket of issues.
But the more 'respectable' end of the market - the escort agencies and Soho walk-ups etc - are different. In a parallel theoretical existence, I would be a lot less concerned about a man using a prostitute than engaging in a fling. The latter suggests an emotional involvement, the former does not. Especially if the man is working away a lot. And very especially if it's a lad's night out.
And there is a diference between impersonal sex, and lovemaking as part of a rounded relationship. Of course, it goes without saying that any playing away without a condom is infinitely worse than safer sex.
Still, if my man did it, I'd bloody kill him. (His main concern now is that our local crack -addicted prostitute-using millionaire plumber has bought a car of the same model and colour as ours).
